“Some women fear the fire, some women simply become it…” – r.h. sin
Lately, I’ve been feeling a lot of gratitude and appreciation for what I have. I wake up in the morning thrilled to have a cup of coffee and start writing. Some days, my mind starts racing and forming sentences before I even open my eyes. For years I’ve been drawn to the quote, “Do something that makes you jump out of bed in the morning.” I finally understand that kind of joy-filled motivation.
When I’m feeling particularly good, I like to go out in the world and try to spread a little love. Usually, I’m met with positivity, smiles, and cheers. However, the last few days, I was also met with negativity, opposition, and jealousy. I realized that I had to use this experience for good and address how I handle these situations. At some point we are all going to deal with negativity, nay-sayers, and nagging. How we react is crucial.
The truth is, not everyone is going to be happy for your success and wellbeing. Some people are going to be jealous of your positivity, and consciously or subconsciously try to bring you down. As painful as this experience can be, it also is very eye-opening. People who are secretly competing and comparing do not belong in your inner circle. True friends are happy for each other, even if one is going through a rough patch. True friends lift each other up. Strong women empower other women and help them to rise.
Being on the receiving end of negative vibes can sting. Sometimes my feelings get hurt, and I let it get to me for a few moments, or even a few days. Eventually, I stop feeling sorry for myself when I realize that I am feeling miserable for absolutely no reason. How other people see, think, or speak about me is none of my business. Focusing on the negative is selfish, because I have so many incredible people in my corner! They deserve my attention and appreciation. Sometimes my vision gets blurry, but I can always refocus. Its important not to loose sight of who you are, what your message is, and those that genuinely have your best interest at heart. Find your tribe of like-minded, strong, empowering women. Together, we can all make it.