“Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you are wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.” – Lady Gaga
Most of us want to find and keep love. We dream of finding someone who will love us unconditionally. Who will encourage us to be ourselves. Who will understand us deeply. The start of a new romance feels promising. You put one another on a pedestool and are blinded by, or choose to blissfully ignore, little things that in a few months you will criticize relentlessly. Then the day comes where one partner wants to do something that makes the other feel insecure. The insecure partner uses threats, manipulation, or ultimatums in a desperate attempt to protect their own ego. This is the turning point. Where the relationship switches from being based in love to rooted in fear.
The truth is, whether or not we sacrifice our happiness for another, there is absolutely NO guarantee that they will stay. The door is open, and they can choose to leave at any time. Statistically speaking, they will. It is crucial for our own survival to love ourselves enough to become and remain whole. To live our lives freely, out loud, boldly, and to sparkle. It is not our job to make ourselves smaller so others can feel better. It is not our job to apologize for our success or accomplishments because others fail. If we stay true to ourselves and live the life we imagined for ourselves, then we will always have love in our lives, even when its not the form we necessarily want at the moment. Someone, somewhere, will love us as we are, maybe for a season or if we are really lucky, a lifetime. Don’t ever settle or change because someone else can’t love who you are right now. In the end, all we have is ourselves. So if we really want true love, it must begin within.